Why does nobody care

Even if you're going through difficult circumstances, serving others gives you a new perspective and can help you feel good about yourself.

Having realistic expectations of what others can do for you is imperative to protecting yourself from feeling unloved, lonely, or overlooked. Avoid the temptation of comparing yourself to other people. It's important to realize that everyone's situation is different and there may be things going on that you don't know about, and that's why it's important not to make assumptions.

Sometimes you don't know the struggles other people are going through. Something may be preventing them from reaching out to you, but it's not because they don't care. The way you interpret your experiences can have a great impact on your emotions.

Sometimes, our minds trick us into believing certain things are true, but in reality, we are narrowly focused on one small aspect of a situation or viewing it through a distorted lens. When you catch yourself having feelings of loneliness, give yourself a reality check. For example, did one person forget to call you, and now you feel like nobody cares? Just because one person lets you down does not mean all people will let you down.

Another thinking error is relying on "Should Statements. Learning to catch these types of thoughts and working on reframing them into more rational thoughts can help you to experience more positive feelings and behaviors.

Working with a counselor to help you identify any cognitive distortions could be greatly beneficial. If you think that patient, caring support may help you develop healthier communication habits with your loved ones, especially if your feelings of loneliness are building to feelings of anxiety or depression, you may want to consider working with a therapist or counselor through a service like BetterHelp.

Recent studies have found that individual online therapy can reduce symptoms of depression by 50 percent and symptoms of anxiety by 57 percent over a four-month period. Think about how much better you could feel in four months or less—let alone how much healthier and happier your relationships could become—with the support and guidance of a licensed mental health professional.

Online therapy can provide you with a nonjudgmental, compassionate expert who can help you work through your feelings, on your own schedule and in your own comfort zone.

A therapist with BetterHelp can guide you through strategies to reframe negative or self-derogating thoughts and build your self-esteem. If you have ever thought, "No one cares about me," know that an online counselor will gladly work alongside you to break through negative feelings. You deserve to feel valued and loved, and online counseling can help. Read below for some reviews of BetterHelp counselors from users who have sought help with self-esteem issues.

Yvonne helped me hone in on the root of the issues I was dealing with and helped provide me with tools to improve my outlook and self-esteem. She helped me realize the ways of thinking that were not serving me and take steps to overcome my fears and insecurities. She's also been great at providing me with perspective. I have loved working with her and have received much solace. The pain goes deep. I think you should move closer to your younger daughter. I wish I could just let it go and move on.

They just choose to not give a crap. I hope we both can just let them go. Your situation seems more like mental illness versus your daughter and your mother not caring. Check out groups like co-dependents anonymous or adult children of alcoholics. Best wishes that you find peace. Laurie, this article is so good, helpful, and loving. It totally helped me.

My desperate feelings have subsided. To those who still feel desperate, please re-read and feel the words in this article. Make little changes. Know that sometimes the people in our lives might be toxic and contributing to our bad and confusing feelings toward ourself.

Sometimes we must remove them from our life. I removed my mom three years ago. My childhood was painful. I moved hours away when I was able and after my dad died she became unbearable.

I kept giving her chances and being patient. Then I realized she never took responsibility for her behavior. I can relate to this Carol. In therapy recently, I realised just how painful my childhood was and how much I was deprived of love growing up. I lost my mom at 11, no one helped us with the trauma and then my dad abandoned us. Whats worse is that he blamed us for everything he did. I always wondered why I struggled to keep relationships, and felt rejected by others.

Because nothing was ever enough, I was so lonely inside. I am still trying to forgive my dad but its hard because he has never taken responsibility for his actions. I so can resonate with what your saying. Your in a home with people and or family; but, still feel so deeply alone, and even though your household knows how you feel, YOUR still not heard or felt.

You become drained, etc. Sometimes just getting on a forum or post such as this, and letting out your pain or problem, relieves you somewhat. Thank you for sharing. Take care, be well and safe. Before I learned how to question my thoughts, I used to turn to Ecclesiastes in the Bible. The writer — possibly King Solomon — shares how meaningless life is, how lonely, sad, and alone he feels.

He says nothing makes him happy, not money or wine or even wisdom. He ends by saying that the only solution is to fear God and obey His commandments. Plus, when you consider that King Solomon had everything most people desire, every material thing that could make him happy, and he still felt sad. Nothing can fill that void except God. And even when God fills us up, we still experience the gamut of human emotion, which includes the lows as well as the highs.

Your encouraging words are honest and will be helpful for anyone who wants to follow the truth. God Bless! I have been experiencing such loneliness. I have had a tough childhood with abandonment, alcoholism, abuse, etc.

And even to this day, when I contact my mother, whom is still alive, it is very one sided conversation about what is going on in her world. My brother passed this life in May in his sleep due to natural causes, and no one found him until 2 days later from one of his friends!

It sounds so lonely. Our family is so dysfunctional it is sad. I woke up sad and lonely. Made me think even more. But my eyes are open to how unimportant I am to my family that I need to deal with this with the Lord.

Thank you again for sharing your personal testimony. I have dementia, which is a brain wasting disease for which there is NO cure, and very little palliative care. I have made friends and family aware of this, yet no one seems to care. My father died of this illness and I watched him die and it was horrific.

Please dont think that way. Try to do one thing every day that makes you happy and focus on that. Oftentimes I feel very sad. I grew up with my grandparents because my mother didnt want me. My mother had other children whom the two sisters are very close. At about 30…35 yrs ago…i reunited with my mother and stepsisters…but of course..

I always feel like an outcast. Only when i got sick with cancer did i feel really cared about. They were great and supportive. Now that im better.. I get severely depressed…sometimes and often just want to be alone.. I dont want to go to family events because i feel out of place…but i force myself. So…while i am not in your situation…i understand some of your feelings. Please try.. Im routing for you. Hatefulness has no place here or anywhere…but God is everywhere filling all things…WOW!

Anna, I may never be able to meet you, but I do care. My four children were ages 6 to 14 when their mother left all of us.

It does not mean she did not care, I presume just a mental problem no one found a solution for. It was about 30 years before my daughter found her mother again. I researched this subject the opposite of what you have.

Yes, I do recognize most people cared nothing about my time in jail and big debt for something I never did in my life, but far worse is the young women who continues to express her love for me was forced against her will to sign a lying statement that put me in jail. This abused woman I continue trying to help, so I call the staff in a college where she studies. I spoke with several there during two weeks including some government agents described to stop abuse.

Nothing worked! No one seems to care at all because what I am absolutely certain from what the women told me during the last three years. When she can get around what is trying to block her communication with me, it is always her love and appreciation wanting to return, but neither of us have the power and money to succeed.

What I pray most for is these evil abusers against her or never want to prevent it. They are in worse condition against God that we have ever been! I know that no one cares about me. It could be possible that your mother is going through something herself that she has yet to get the help for. When we feel bad feelings we can very easily take it out on others without even being aware of it.

Especially since she grew up that way. One day you will be old enough to move out and move on if you have to. It happened to me.

Surround yourself with good friends and activities that make you so happy. I wish you nothing but very best. If it brings you any solice, I survived and You will too. Only think ahead. You will grow up one day and as an adult no-one can harm you, because you will be old enough to protect yourself. This I promise.

Sounds like you need medical assistance too; can government healthcare provide a home health aide for you? I was sick for nearly a decade. Before that, I was a writer and minister who made a very good living as an administrative assistant. Suddenly I became sick without Fibromyalgia, and a dozen or so attendant illnesses. I have lingering health issues because I live with family that never believed how sick I was and eats anything I put in the fridge, left me in a vacant house once.

I am better now and can work, but not making enough to live on my own. I feel like I wasted my life. I feel like no one cares about me, no one values me. Angus, You matter! Your life matters! This life is just a preparation for the next…It takes constant prayer to overcome the heartache of this world…But there is something in the suffering that is vital.. Who can understand it? So that.. I once met a woman who was single at 55, never married, very educated. I asked her why she never married..

I thought it was the most honest answer I had ever heard.. I will be praying for you…Katherine. God Bless I truly understand.. I really needed to read your encouraging words. I feel so alone and useless and grief has overwhelmed me. I am severely lonely. I was sexually molested around 8 years old by my now, longtime-ex brother in law, married at 20, mentally and physically abused, and divorced, without children, by 24 and vowed never to marry again.

I remained single and sexless for the next 22 years and became a raging WORKaholic. I did remarry at 46 years old and have been married 10 years. We started off happily but our marriage has deteriorated to nothingness.

He also has his skeletons from the past and is depressed. I have feel completely invisible. He claimed to be in a dead marriage too and wanted us to be friends with benefits. Like an idiot, I agreed. The attention he paid me was through the roof and I told him that I could fall in love with him.

From that moment forward our relationship was harmed. We still talked, met and made dates to hook up for sex, which HE backed out of every single time. Well, he did. That was the last time I heard from him. He has completely ghosted me and will not answer any of my texts or phone calls.

I confessed to my husband and he said that he was expecting that to happen and that he deserved it. I have been so distraught that I have seriously considered taking my own life. I recently quit my career as a nurse, something I was pushed into doing and something that made me completely miserable. I cannot be a part of it any longer. I watched my mom and grandma die a few years ago. I was married to an abusive alcoholic who almost killed me. I come from a long line of co-dependent, passive-aggressive stuffers, so there is truly no one in my family that I can talk to.

My head is and has been in a bad place. I have no joy. I fake happiness, when I have the energy. I just feel like a big, black void. And I write here, because God woke me up this morning. For better or worse. You obviously had much pain and abuse in your life. I think just having someone to truly listen about your life and validate your feelings is a must.

I too am a nurse, so can understand a bit more. If you ever want to reach out, feel free. I haven to say that this is such a superficial understanding of feeling alone. That is not being alone. YOu say you are mostly and optimist and sometime feel kinda this way…. Nonsense garbage article. Leave this stuff out of the internet if you really want to help people.

Regarding your kid, Kshill Gilbran says our children are not our own. We just give them an opportunity at life. It is so hard to let them make their own choices. I told my daughters that their emotional distance disrespects the commitment I made to them when I was a single mom. As for finding a partner at age 60, my family dr recommend E-Harmony. Given a wall of faces, I pick the serial killers every time. You can decide if those are deal breakers or not.

Also, besides great screening, the answers are to the questions it would take months of dating getting dressed, makeup, discomfort to learn. Anyone who is deceptive is kicked out. I figured. Believe me, I was ready to cash it all in. For this state, that was miraculous!!! As all of the personal info and beliefs had already been addressed via the questions and our emails before our first date. My husband told me on our first date, was that it was my frank honesty that made him fall in love with me.

Had we met anywhere else we never would have spoken to each other. Good men have been screwed over and fearful of that pain occurring again.

Forget the Bad Boys. I too am alone. So, no one but a couple of girlfriends scattered all over the states. Your issues are far more common than you realize.

There are MANY women that are living our lives, which does t seem true when you look around yourself; but it is. I can completely understand. I feel like I have no purpose in life. I was a daughter, but both parents are gone. I hate being alone. I hate living alone, and I hate making all the decisions because I always make the wrong one. It is lonely.

I commiserate with you. I do not have children but I know families with five solid adult children and not one even speaks to the other because of conflicts. Then there are the families with yelling and violence.

Better to be alone! I would miss most the phone call with mother of what I ate for dinner that night. Who else would care? Or how my hair looked. Truly, you must realize that all the people you met in the past was not from sitting in your livingroom; it was because you went someplace. Got to get out like a tourist.

Wish there was a club where we got a person to make sure we were alive everyday and listen to what we ate for dinner. I am sorry for your pain. Everything will be ok. I understand the tunnel feeling. I understand the blackness of it. It will come in time and eventually those bad moments will fade. Your important you matter and you are loved. I honestly think all my loved ones would be better with me gone.

My health has deteriorated suddenly and nothing seems to go right anymore. People share the highlights, not the lowlights. We can feel anxious, sad, and unhappy after going on Facebook or Instagram. But people share the highlights, not the lowlights. I feel like no one cares. I feel alone. This stood out to me because I used to feel so unwanted — and definitely like no one cares — when I went on Facebook and Instagram.

I stopped visiting those sites for six months, and felt alot better. Going offline — getting off the internet! But better is to learn who you are in Jesus Christ, and to become who God created you to be. You are here for a reason, and you matter.

But if you succumb and dwell in the dark pit of feeling unwanted and alone, you have no chance of seeing the light. Searching the internet and reading comments from others who feel like nobody cares is helpful…but better is to get out into the world and interact with real people. Laurie, you are so right. I often surf Facebook and see all the beautiful photos of my friends perfect families.

I decided tonight to unplug. I get depressed and feel why am I measuring my worth based on my daughters approval of what I say, buy or do? My husband rejected me. He told me he wants out relationship to be strictly platonic. The person I thought was my friend abducted my kids. It took notifying the police to get them back. I AM all alone and unwanted. It is true that we can tell ourselves a victim narrative. Life will often test our capacity to remain compassionate and to keep qualities that make us human through suffering.

Learning to believe in yourself no matter what anyone says is very important. Learning that you and only you can know what is truly in your heart is another key. It is tempting to want to defend against what others say about us to define our intentions. However, when you believe in and love yourself, no one can take it away from you.

We go through life, death, pain and joy. All of it is an experience. When you feel you have lost everything and everyone you cared about, you have a chance to go within while all has been stripped down to allow you to re-evaluate the beliefs, ways of thinking and being that no longer serve your growth. Seasons show us that life is constantly in cycles of transition and renewal or growth.

Connect with the Divine essence of God within you— for you are a being living, breathing and moving through and a part of the miracle of existence through willed creation. And your thoughts and feelings have some of the same power to shape your world and experience. If they are not patient or understanding with you, they are less patient, understanding and loving with themselves.

Everyone is in a process. You are your own key and answers. I pray that you go with love today, and do something, anything you can to love and nurture your spirit, health body , and mind. Whether that is with nature or art, or prayer and contemplation. The world around you is vast. Nature has its own language to share if you listen, and you are not ever truly alone as each of us is part of that nature. It truly sucks feeling so utterly alone. Ive read and heard that i should turn to God.

Well, i have. And nothing……. Hurts even more! Because i realise and feel God has turned his back on me. Whats the point of being human. Being alive. When u completely alone.????????? Oh, heavens could this be God that I found this or sheer coincidence? It was the driving force behind my Quest to find God-Love manifested in the physical realm He created, beyond just human goodness, kindness of strangers and social or family interactions or even romantic ones.

Needless to say, it did exacerbate feelings of wondering why I or we are actually here and the desire to die young. That it is not just a Destination. That there is beauty and hope even in the darkest nights of the Soul. And I realized that the Path to finding a Higher connection with the spiritual beyond physical limitations IS possible. Just not quick, and shortcuts can be setbacks. Sorry, the quote that eludes me in reference to this article and the commenter sharing about working in Africa is one that Mother Theresa shared in her service in India…something about her struggles to feel God and to keep on even when faith seemed irrelevant, and about her intense loneliness….

What made it worse was my fear and insecurity. I did see a counselor for the last 9 months that I lived there, and she helped a lot! I kept myself stuck for years. He created you for a reason — and it was not to punish or ignore you!

Learn who Jesus is, what He experience, and how He lived. Open your heart and mind to the Holy Spirit. Ask for wisdom, guidance, and healing. And reach out to people in person. One of my biggest regrets in Africa — the loneliest season of my life, when I really believed nobody cared about me — was listening to the accuser tell me I was worthless, alone, and unloved.

Those were lies. Learn how to see through the lies, and to hold on to the truth. You were created by a loving God who not only knows you exist, He wants you to flourish. He wants you to blossom into who He created you to be…but you have to participate.

Plant seeds, nurture sprouts of life and growth, and celebrate the beauty that surrounds you. I am all alone. My husband has not touched me in over 15 years because I am no longer a size 0. I work from home with really no communication from my company other than what my production numbers should be.

I go weeks on end without talking or seeing others. My husband works 6 and 7 days a week. When he is not working he is sleeping 13 hrs a day. I am a Christian I will not leave my husband even though I know he is not here for me. I am lost. I think my isolation is my punishment from God for not always being a good example. I live in the country. They love the money I make and are here when they need things.

But they are not here when I need them. But what do I do. I am so tired of crying. I have 6 brothers and sisters with me being the middle child. But since we lost both our parents in we are not as close. Yeah we have one that thinks she took over the roll of mom and hurts me more than loves me. I suffer from their loss everyday, but according to them not as much as they do and they think it is better not to talk about it. I am lost and all alone in this world and just need to find a reason to keep going on.

Hello Diane! I thought she was going to die in January. She was in hospital with pneumonia. I take her out when I can, call almost daily and take care of her admin.

Today my brother offered to help me out. He offered to take my mum to visit her God daughter. My mum thought it was a ludicrous idea, that he should travel to collect her and then visit her God daughter when he lives two hour drive away.

I can only assume it meant the task was left to me. I work full time and have my own son, husband and a home. The pressure has been immense. The day is ruined and my heart is heavy. My mum is not loving or affectionate and I have come to accept this. I feel lost, lonely, angry and not enough. Never enough. I am right there with you and I so understand how you feel, I wish I knew who you were so I could stay in touch and see how you are doing.

Diane know that I care. Love to you. I have though about death more consistently almost daily these past 3 years. Nothing gets better — it only gets worse. Blame my faith they always say. I hear squat! I cannot reject the reality of Him. Its about Him dealing with other more important people.

I am nothing. I feel worthless. The world closes its eyes to it. So now, how do I foresee my future? I have nothing to offer. There is no justice. Everyone has betrayed me in some for or another maybe I did too unknowlingly. Why the hell are we on this earth? Some, even seem to think its our thinking. I should hope? Hope for what? My husband left me with nothing for greener pastures i asked for nothing, even though he took half of what I had when he had thousands worth of equipment.

Yes, I feel bitter. Somedays I feel grateful — yes roof over my head for now , safe from crime today , and food on my table yes tin food is still food — not brain food, but ja. All my dreams are gone and yes I had some besides the married with children not that that is not admirable. Thank you.

I am in absolute horror at the current situation in South Africa, which admittedly, I was completely unaware of until reading your post which sparked my curiosity and inspired additional research. So, thank you for opening my eyes to something so important that is obviously flying under the radar of mainstream media. I think it is only natural to feel as low as you probably do, given your current environment and the worry you face each day. Do you have family? Anyone outside of South Africa?

Do you have any resources or friends that accompany you? You can control this feeling, just as you can control any other emotion. Meaning is everything — and you can learn how to change the meaning you give your experiences, thoughts and emotions. Instead of letting negative self-talk take over your mind, practice acknowledging these thoughts and letting them go. You can shift your mindset from victim to hero and take back control of your life.

You can realize that life is happening for you , not to you. You decide what happens to you. And only you can change your story for good. Decide to live a fulfilling and meaningful life, no matter who cares about you or not.

What do you do when no one cares about you? You must care about yourself. Exercising and feeding your body the right fuel go a long way to improving your mood and mindset. Take up healthy habits like priming , meditation, yoga or journaling. Do something you love. Put on your favorite song and sing as loud as you can.